An employee, in her late 20's/early 30's sent me an email this morning. It read, "I know you're very busy and there's a lot going on, but can I please come down and talk to you? It's not urgent, but it's pretty important." I told her to come down. This is what she said:
Employee: There's a girl in my department who calls me a nickname and *sniff*, I don't know what to dooooooo!
Me: What does she call you?
Emp: Queen Bee
Me: Ok, have you asked her to stop?
Emp: *crying* Nuuhh-uu-hh
Me: Ok. Have you thought about just asking her to not call you that?
Emp: *sniffle* Yes, but I didn't want her to be mad at me. *snuffle* I don't want to cause any problems or anything.
Me: Ok, hmm. Does she say it in a mean way? I mean, does she have an aggressive tone of voice or expression?
Me: Hmm. Ok. Um, are you here because you'd like me to ask her to stop calling you that?
Emp: *snifflesnort* Whull, yeah. Um, I mean, I don't want to make a big deal out of it or anything because I don't want her to be mad at me.
Me: So, ok...Do you think she would be less upset by being called down to HR & being talked to? Do you think if you just maybe said, "Hey, um, I know you're just goofing around, but can you not call me that?"
Emp: *gulp* Yabbut, I'm afraid if I say something to her about it, she'll get upset & think I'm being a baby.
REALLY???? Why in the world would she ever think you're being a baby? *sigh* How do you function?
People, your Human Resources department is there to help you and make sure you're being treated fairly and everyone's following all the rules and crap, but we are NOT here to be your mom! In fact, if you act like this, your mom should be fucking smacked for failing to teach you to put on your big girl/boy panties and grow the hell up.